For the next little while you have some legal stuff to sort out. You’ve got a good plan and had things ready. You’ve done all you could do and now is the time to continue.
You so got this!D
I will move forward now indeed. Thank you DnJ.
Received some news today from SIL which I need to process.
Apparantely H shared some pictures of him and OW2 a few weeks ago with his youngest brother. So nobody did officially know he was seeing someone else, of course they had their doubts, but now he simply sent some pictures with the comment @.....right now.
Hi did exactly the same thing with his younger brother a week ago. 1 picture of the both together, simply mentioning @.......
So this is the first time in 3 years he really shared hard evidence of an OW with anybody. But smart enough did not tell anybody she is his OW.
The whole family knows now, except for the children and me.
I feel very uncomfortable, for myself but definitely also towards the kids.
I can't tolerate anymore the fact he is lying to all of us.
I've always been very honest towards the children but now I don't know what to do.
S17 overheard the conversation and is furious. He wants to quit communication with him. Twins14 are not aware yet but know something is going on.
Do I need to tell them? They've asked and I told them I don't want to share the information right now but that I would think about it.
Is it OK to tell the children that the suspected relationship their father is having is for real and that the family is aware of it?
I know 1 of them will break all contact as well. He told me several times in the past he would not tolerate this in his life when he knows for sure.
I personally want to go NC with him, have done enough and can't bare his BS anymore about his FOO's and depression etc.
Then we have the fact that SIL told this in privacy, I don't want her to get in trouble.
