Originally Posted by reason
I am trying to figure out if I'm seeing things that aren't there and I think the initial post was me venting.

No I think what you are seeing is real. It's just hard to see through your rose colored glasses, which is normal for a recent LBS.
Originally Posted by reason
I have been doing full-time work in the day and full-time classes at night and honestly might just be burnt out in general. I need to find time to sit down and answer your questions very thoroughly because honest answers to those will probably tell me what I need to know.
Honest answers will certainly help. Take your time.
Originally Posted by reason
The current point of frustration for me is that she keeps dismissing the whole thing as "it happened a long time ago" and claims to not remember the months of hurtful interactions.
This can't happen. I have a friend whos wife cheated 20 years ago. They never did counseling and her answer was "you need to get over it". Well surprise he has never gotten over it and has tons of resentment and is planning his D.
Originally Posted by reason
Our youngest son has an upcoming heart procedure, so from that standpoint, "safe" feels necessary.
This is what is most important. I hope it goes well.
Originally Posted by reason
Thank you for the thoughtful and concise reply.
No problem.