WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Divorced Anyway (5)

[OnlyBent]

Made it a point not to date until after D was official - moral thing for me and my kids - but really haven't done much there since the D either.

Interested to hear more about this BL. What has happened? Are you planning to think about dating more going forward?

I do want more stability for the kids at some point and could see myself getting along with a new man in their lives in the future, but greatly prefer someone who did not sleep with my wife and move in with my kids right off the bat.

Completely understandable, I feel the same way. At the same time knowing it is completely out of our control.

There's a great quote I can't find at the moment, but it goes something like: "You can choose to be interested in your kid's life, but you can't choose what they're interested in." Wish I had the exact words, but that always stuck out with me. For example, I've never been into fishing but S6 tried it at a friend's lake house during the Summer of separation and really liked it and said he wanted to do it again, so I bought him a real rod and reel for his birthday and we went out several times this Summer and he's caught a few fish he's so excited about, so it became a cool bonding activity.

^^^^^This. Not only is it fun and rewarding at the time, but will continue to pay dividends as they grow up. Keep it up BL, awesome stuff on the parenting front!