An example of a trigger is last night ExW wanted to video chat with the kids. We've both been good in that respect and always facilitate the call with the kids when request. I try to stay away and do my thing around the house so I'm not listening in or interfering, but it's hard with such young kids. D3 climbs off the bed and runs to me and pulls my hand to try to get me to join the call so she can show off her new pet. I'm not sure how to deal with that situation, as she's excited and wants me to join in her happiness, but I don't want to be part of a video call with ExW. Anyway, I overheard ExW all happy and cheery asking S6 "Do you want to say hi to OM2?!?"...that hurts.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21