Believe it or not, there comes a point where you hope your ex and her OM do not implode........ It takes years and a lot of painful emotional work to get where I am. Not everyone does. Everyone doesn’t even have to. I still have triggers, they are just managed well.
Yes, I agree with Ginger that you want that outcome eventually for the well being of the kids. But it takes a lot of work and time, and there are still triggers that need to be managed. The reason I wished that exW's R with lilmanboy would implode is because she rushed into everything and wanted to create some fantasy blended family and I didn't think it was going to be a good thing for the kids. And then it did implode because lilmanboy is an a$$hole.
I don't intend to reconcile with exW - it would take a lot of effort and time, and I don't have the patience to go through piecing. But like LH says, you never know. So, I expect that she's going to get into a R with someone else at some point and I hope that the OM is a decent person and can be a good influence in the lives of my kids. There is no OM or OW that can replace you as the primary parent, so I have no concerns about feeling less than. My relationship with my kids is rock solid and there is no other man that can usurp that. My only hope is that exW doesn't rush into a new R and doesn't introduce the kids early. I have a suspicion that an OM is in her life, but nobody has been introduced to the kids, and so I am good with it.
Originally Posted by BL42
Something about the ExW needing to start on a level playing field seems like justice.
I feel you on that. exW's R imploding was good justice in my eyes. Whatever fantasy land and fog that she was in was ripped apart in a matter of days. maybe now she can look back at our marriage and BD and see her part in the mess she made.
Originally Posted by LH19
You know what CW you’re right life would be grand if all the WS and LBS could live together in true harmony and bliss and walk into the sunset together. Also if my aunt had balls she’d be my uncle.
