I am a mom to a teen daughter . It’s rough at times. Is she rough at times because she is “modeling my behavior”. NO! It’s because she is a teenage girl navigating her way and becoming her own person! When she’s being a bit$h is it because I’m a bit&h? NO!!!
I have heard far too many LBH start to say as their daughter exhibit normal age appropriate ( which is not always desirable) behavior, that they are scared they are becoming their “mom” and are “afraid” Come on now. It’s so easy to blame on the walk away spouse. But really not fair to project on to the child.
Things happen in my ex’s house that I’m not fond of sometimes. But I instead my daughter the tools to cope If she asks .
My ex boyfriend used to think his sons bad behaviors at pre school were due to something his ex wife must be doing. After my observation, it was easy to see those behaviors had nothing to do with her and due to him giving him 24/7 undivided attention . But he said his mom must not pay enough attention to him
In the beginning it’s raw and painful and people just want to blame everything on the wall away. There is only so much you can.
