Your STBX has now been at minimum 3 inappropriate relationships with other men while you we’re together plus cheated on her BF with you.
She’s a serial cheater and consider yourself lucky to be rid of her!
The part I placed in bold. I see the advice giving to validate, and that's great, but sometimes I see validation used to comfort the WS/WAS when in fact, BS behavior should never be validated.
Feelings, yes, but not harmful behaviors. Also have to be careful not to validate the re-writing of history. Truth is good. Live in the light. Don't join anyone in the darkness.
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
Congratulations on the house and on finding peace, hope, joy. Isn't that a wonderful place to be? Savor new home ownership! You have many blessings to fill your heart.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Your STBX has now been at minimum 3 inappropriate relationships with other men while you we’re together plus cheated on her BF with you.
She’s a serial cheater and consider yourself lucky to be rid of her!
The part I placed in bold. I see the advice giving to validate, and that's great, but sometimes I see validation used to comfort the WS/WAS when in fact, BS behavior should never be validated.
Feelings, yes, but not harmful behaviors. Also have to be careful not to validate the re-writing of history. Truth is good. Live in the light. Don't join anyone in the darkness.
Drives me fuching insane. In the situation above his STBX should feel uncomfortable for fuching around with someone else’s husband. Consequences are our best teachers.
Today went in to the office for physical exam for special team. Ran 1.5 mile, 2 minutes of push ups/sit ups and then had to bench my weight.
I had no idea you were THAT strong, and maybe into powerlifting! We may need a DB fitness forum. Congratulations, on your house I mean, although benching your weight is an achievement too! I loved reading the happiness in your update this morning. Yes, your NY team and we are rooting for you even if we can't physically lift those boxes for ya!
I'm finally going to bed. I found my underwear just fine, but struggled finding toothpaste and my work boots! "encouraged" me to unpack more than I planned tonight.
Work in the morning. Floors aren't finished. That has been a challenge. It will all come together in the end.
Just wanted to thank everyone for the encouragement and support!
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
Congratulations, on your house I mean, although benching your weight is an achievement too! I loved reading the happiness in your update this morning. Yes, your NY team and we are rooting for you even if we can't physically lift those boxes for ya!