OB, I hear you that discussing justifications for choosing the WAS hat in one of my relationships may be triggering for some--thanks for speaking up. No doubt the anger BL42 feels towards his XW betraying him with OM2 is different than the anger I felt towards my XW for putting my son in the hospital or my long-term XGF for suddenly leaving the family home after promising forever. We each faced our own hells, but there are common threads, like the pain and anger we must process after our splits.
