I can't count how many times Kml has smacked me with a well deserved 2x4 as does our dear Job, again usually spot on. Jack 3 Beans also had a deft gift with the 2x4, and I would sometimes cringe when I read his posts on others' threads, but he always had something thought provoking to say. Whether you agreed or not, at least he got you thinking.
People resent getting called out. Speaking for myself, sometimes I'd read a post from Kml and be angry for hours later but she was almost always 100% right. I am grateful for the time she and Job put in to help me when I really was at my lowest, and that they continue to put in today, to name just two of the many people around here who helped me. Irish, D, Sotto .. the list goes on for days.
We don't get to these boards because our lives are going swimmingly ... and if we don't want to take advice we don't have to. Neither is this a place to get a participation trophy. This is someplace to come to learn to change. It is a place of action. Change and action are not concepts readily embraced. Not a lot of people have the capacity or stamina for the kind of change required to either stand and get the chance to piece our marriages back together or move on from the marriage breakup to change into a different, better version of the person who first got here.
Just my $.02. As always, take it or leave it. No harm, no foul.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
