I guess I’m one of the posters who don’t feel like all WAS are monsters. Aliens, yes! It makes sense fo walk away from a marriage after a sustained period of dysfunction. Some WAS have requested therapy or talked about their issues for years. I think for reconciliation or even just self-improvement for the next R, a bit of compassion and empathy go a long way, as does owning your mistakes (but not their mistakes). Recognizing the LBS and the WAS are neither angels nor demons. WWS, serial cheaters, and abusers are different animals. Them I’m okay calling monsters.
I do feel sad when posters give up on the forums because they feel attacked. I hope future posters feel “directness” and not “attacked”.
