That hole within yourself is no longer a vortex and is barely noticed.
Standing purely for yourself.
Well said Sage.
Originally Posted by Sage4
Our vows reflected us at the time: love, honor, respect, openly resolving our differences and allowing and accepting each other as we are, encouraging growth and supporting our differences. I guess when I really read our vows, I can honor them with or without him as my H, whether I have a new partner in my life or not. And not in the funny-business way of finding a loophole, but in the truest sense of how we wrote and intended those vow to represent us. I am still living and honoring my vows, and always will.
Thank you for sharing this.
My mentioning of loophole is me. Not in the funny-business way, a serious resolution to that dilemma. I’ve listened, discussed, and read many views and reasons for various paths. Your vows and their intent is helpful to me and I know I will mull it over for some time.
I am considering if I want to alter my belief regarding my vows. I realize it’s “my” belief and “my” vow. I’ve expended and invested considerable energy and time into this issue and still hold too my views. I can see many sides to this matter and still I remain planted. Suppose I’m not ready I guess.
Originally Posted by Sage4
Do I choose to deny my love and deflect his, only because I have too much baggage?
Yes. If, and ‘work with me here’, IF you have too much baggage do not bring someone into that. Fix. Let go the baggage first.
That is a mostly theoretical answer. One in which you actually gave the answer in the question. If I have “too much” baggage. Of course, it’s too much. The underlining question is - Do I have too much baggage?
Perhaps that is the next step you are looking towards. Addressing whatever baggage you’re dragging about.
For me, finding acceptance and forgiveness removes a lot of emotional baggage. And if I may, I do not believe you are overstocked with too much luggage. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders, a wise mind, and a good heart.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
