I do understand your feelings. It’s been a long time since I held anyone’s hand. XW and I walked everywhere hand in hand. Four years with no hugs, cuddles, hand holding, kisses, pillow talk, sex, waking up to someone beside you, etc.
They are feelings. They will flit - unless reinforced.
Originally Posted by Sage4
I thought I would be so pure and so true and not do a thing until years after the D, but I am feeling so alive at the moment.
Glad you are feeling alive. It does take time to heal, to find ourselves again.
We all face crossroads during our journey. Decisions and choices along our path.
Standing is the default position while we heal. Standing really starts when one is healed enough to stand down. However, that needs to become standing for you. Not M. Not H. You!
Standing or living your convictions or believing in your vows - all is standing for you.
By the way, you can be completely alive AND be single.
It’s alone, not lonely. There is a difference.
Originally Posted by Sage4
I have been advised that my D will likely take a long time to be final, so I am not sure that is a benchmark that makes sense for me to wait for at this point.
Such are the crossroads we face.
You never believed in dating outside your marriage before. Why start now?
Decisions based upon feelings often lead to regret. Follow your beliefs and convictions, for they are slow to change and make excellent headings for life.
You face your crisis of faith, a crisis of your soul/beliefs/values. This is the testing of your beliefs. How strong are they? Do they crumble?
I faced similar. You know the path I walked. My accounts are full up. I live in the light. And my yearnings and zest for life is alive and well.
I am happy to walk beside you my friend. You are not alone.
I can discuss further later, for now I am off to work.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
