The therapist said to me at the end, she has never seen a child behave the way my daughter behaves. The therapist said she is going to tell my lawyer.. that she sees parent alienation and for forensics to get involved now.
It must be validating to hear a professional say that she sees parental alienation. I hope that process leads to improvements in how you and your ex talk about and interact with each other for your D or even your S.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
The therapist wants us to do list of the talking. It’s more of an interrogatation. I ask a question and she gives me 2 word answers. I ask her open ended questions like, tell me about your school day? She will answer, I don’t know. Then I say can you tell me how your classes are going. I get, good. Tell me about your teachers? She replies, they are fine. Thanks here is no point.
Like BL42, I was going to say--this could easily be my teen on the right day, lol. Is your therapist giving you guidance on how to converse effectively? E.g., small talk, being light, and building up from questions requiring short, simple answers to ones requiring longer answers? That sort of conversation definitely feels frustrating, but when you think "There is no point", consider info about her teacher isn't as important as being in the same room as your D with opportunities to show her that you love her and are willing to meet her where she is. The last time I gave my parents a chance to talk to me in person.. 2-3yrs ago.. I know I shut down whenever they pried for personal details such as my hobbies, work, love life, etc. but I was willing to engage with them when they talked about the weather or non-political current events or the natural things around us. I had a couple of phone calls with them last year and said I'd try to stop by this summer, but they began pressuring me for dates, so I broke off contact again.
Anyway, another topic you might consider chatting with your therapist about.
I'm so glad you and your S are on a positive arc! Dave & Buster's together--HUGE! Keep offering him opportunities to spend fun time 1:1 with you. I wish I'd used a much lighter hand when it came to integrating my family and my XGF's family. Blending two families together is such a delicate thing. Wishing you much success. (:
