Wolfman moving forward2

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Wolfman,

I ask her open ended questions like, tell me about your school day? She will answer, I don’t know. Then I say can you tell me how your classes are going. I get, good. Tell me about your teachers? She replies, they are fine.

For what it's worth, and I'm not saying this is the case with you & your daughter, but those are the typical responses I get from S6 when I ask about his school day. I have no reason to think it's anything to do with the D - think he just doesn't want to talk about it or go into specifics. When he does want to talk about something there is a spark and he'll go into detail and tell me all about it.

I knew that connecting to her would be more challenging. I kind of sat back and let her take the lead in how she came to me. I was always open and friendly with her but didn't push. Think about little kids and how they explore things and how they join groups of their peers. They'll act aloof at first, then when no one is really paying attention, they'll jump right in the middle of whatever is going on with both feet and reckless abandon. So, I sat back and waited for her to come to me.

My advice to you is to not push your S or your GF too hard toward each other or you will likely get the opposite of the desired reaction and they will actually both kind of balk and repel each other. Let them interact naturally.

I'm not expert, but this seems like good advice. It's like the cat analogy on this board...sit back and let them come to you, and hope it develops over time. If you force it they might rebel more.