Rope dropping and grey rocks

[97Hope]

Thanks, Dawn!!

I was just reading your other post about the LBS not the only one needing a reset/break. Completely agree.

Bttrfly also mentioned how her X went bonkers when it was final. From what I hear through the kids, like you I don't ask but they do talk, my X is doubling down on forcing the OW into their lives while having breakdowns even in front of kids when she isn't around.

He spent no time alone, didn't even monkey branch. He was all in in both trees. (insert Mr. Yuk emoji here). At any rate, his chickens are coming home to roost now. He can't look at photos without crying and has had several breakdowns in front of kids. Can't handle being alone with himself and his thoughts etc. That sounds like me in the beginning of the process.


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So, lesson learned - take time to grieve. Spend time with yourself. Get comfortable with the quiet alone time. It can be a major factor in healing and moving forward.

I see so many people hop right in to a new relationship and that seems to create all manner of problems.

Of course it's lonely at first. Solution isn't to use someone else to keep the lonely at bay. Solution is to embrace being alone, and discover how not to be lonely. One is geography, the other is a mindset.

When we use people to manage our emotions, we never learn how to manage them on our own.

My opinion, of course. Just something I keep seeing.

When I think about dating, I ask myself, would I date me, given all the information?