BD April 2019 with the famous ILYBNILWY. Started an affair a few weeks before that timing. Immediately found out. Lying, spewing, rewriting of history, wanting both of us, etc. until I kicked him out 09/2019. Came back 2 months later, totally broken. (way too soon) Final break-up with OW 02/2020.
COVID so home from 02/2020 until 08/2020. Deep outward depression, first signs of aknowledgement that something is really wrong with him. Still shows a lot of running behavior such as drinking heavily.
Accepts new job abroad since 04/2020, working from home since COVID, asked him to leave for the other country in 08/2020 since behavior is extremely bad for myself and my 3 boys, all teenagers.
From 09/2020 until 12/2020 slightly showing improvement whilst abroad, new running behavior...working out (sports) to an extreme level. As from 12/2020 clear set-back into tunnel (possible new OW in the picture)
01/2021 asked for divorce, I agree.
Same month he informs me that OW1 passed away. (suicide)
01/2021 - 06/2021: Process of D is in my hands, since he doesn't act. Most of the financial stuff is arranged, except for the house which is still mutual but he pays half of all the costs currently. I stopped doing anything in regards to the D since I got stronger and completely detached now.
06/2021 - present: slight improvements, definitely towards kids (altough still very difficult) - quite convinced there has been an OW2 for about 6 months but affaire is breaking in pieces or has ended. Planning to come back to home country (accepted new job within current company)
09/2021: aknowledges strongly he can't get out of it on his own, so now in contact with retired psychiatrist from his past.
