My poor friend, he had a welt from that wasp bite for a couple of weeks.
It is good to see you focusing and considering your future. It was not ridiculous the length of time for you to get to that point. We all take the time we need. Keep being patient and ensure you make wise choices and decisions. You still have the gift of time, use it well.
It is interesting H finally telling his Mom. And of course no surprise it’s his version of things.
Originally Posted by PLC
It makes me wonder, how come he told his mom he’s fine with how things are. Is he biding his time until something better? Or is he, according to my therapist, unwilling to initiate divorce? His mom point blank asked if he had seen an attorney and he told her no.
Now that is interesting. I don’t think H is lying about not seeing a lawyer. Oh my goodness, why am I using such double negatives. Lol.
I think H is telling the truth, he hasn’t seen a lawyer. Mom’s sudden forward question would have most likely caught him off guard and he’d not be ready to utilize a planned fib.
Is he biding his time? Maybe. Waiting for something better? I don’t think so. Is he unwilling to initiate a divorce? I think this is a yes.
I think H is biding his time. Perhaps not for another relationship or partner. He wants clarity. I think he sees (at times) how messed up things are for him. He is just slowly walking his path. And these poor souls walk at a glacier pace.
I understand how it is still confusing. H doesn’t eat with you. He is aloft. And yet he washes and fills your car. I’ve kind of wondered if one of, or even his primary love language might have been acts of service. I find something almost there with his continual looking after your car, and by extension maybe you, sort of. Weird I know. Well irrational really.
Anyhow, with all your ducks getting lined up, what do you want to do? What beliefs and convictions do you want to enact and live by?
I believe it best to ask the hard questions and find the answers before one takes that step.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
