Also, last week was the kid's first day back at school. WW drove from PA to my house, parked in the driveway, got out and took pictures of them in their new back to school outfits. They stood outside the front door. This is something she always did each first day back at school. She never said a word to me, then got back in her car and drove off. Someone told me she posted the pics on FB which would have been weird because it would show the front door of a house she no longer lives in.
Hi Drh2001,
Whoever is filling you in on what your WW is posting on Facebook, if they've volunteered info more than once, I'd thank them but ask them to kindly not do so again. It doesn't help with detachment.
Maybe there's some context I'm missing, but I'm not sure why you believe it's weird your XW is taking photos of the kids on their first date of school. Is it that she doesn't feel guilt, shame, etc. and your home's just another backdrop? I was a WAS to my XW (for good reasons), and both of us have taken holiday photos of the kids' in front of the others' place at some point. Never thought twice about it.
CWarrior,
It's not weird that she took pictures of the kids on their first day back at school. This was a tradition she had kept for years.
It's weird that she didn't announce she was coming (she lives half an hour away in another state), never told me in advance she was coming, parked in the driveway, didn't say a word to me, took the photos and then drove off. I don't know what I was expecting.
It's just a strange experience.
I gave up trying to figure out the logic of the WAS mind year ago. They are irrational, strange beasts. Likely she doesn't even know why she ended up there. It was some impulse that said "I need to go take pictures of the kids!" I agree, it is strange, but until your kids are on their own I think the one expectation you can have is that you will never understand your EX's behavior.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
