First D, if I got stung by a wasp I don’t think I would be as calm as your friend! If I as the driver, I definitely would crash. Glad you both were ok.
Eagle, I do feel a lot of relief in telling my family and MIL. My dad has told me in the times, he brings it up, that whatever I want, he and my mom support me. My sister has told me she’s there for me. My MIL is so upset thinking she caused this, I have tried to tell her, this is all him. She has told me she wants to travel with me to see my daughter in Europe and if I am in a mobile job, I can stay there for a while. I get along with her just fine, and we could travel easily.
As for H, he finally told his mom that he and I “were not getting along.” She asked what happened, (she did not tell him she knew, as she wanted him to tell her) and he told her that we “grew apart” he also told her he was happy with how things are at home. He did not mention any other women. (Big surprise)
I really am focused on my future, sometimes it seems ridiculous that it took me so long to make a plan, but I was not ready before. H is still aloof and won’t eat with us and leaves me alone. I’m used to it now. I will say he still will take my car to get it filled up and get it washed. Last weekend I told him I didn’t need it, and during the week he asked for my keys and took care of it before this past weekend. So I know that there is still some courtesy that he extends.
It makes me wonder, how come he told his mom he’s fine with how things are. Is he biding his time until something better? Or is he, according to my therapist, unwilling to initiate divorce? His mom point blank asked if he had seen an attorney and he told her no.
The thing is, all of my ducks will be in a row, then once I take that step, I’m gone. I know he doesn’t think this, so it will be a shock. Oh well.
