Need advice on stubborn W part 2

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AKuei,

Awesome update with the cycling excursion! Exercise & meeting people...sounds like great GAL. Plus teaching D7 to ride a bike...that must've been a proud dad moment :-)

- I'm pretty sure I'm very close to throwing the towel and stop allowing myself to live in such a situation. It's the constant mental pressure about the ambiguity that is really putting a strain to my mind. Everyday the urge to call it quits get stronger.

It has to be wearing on you. I was there as well, and know what you're going through. You have to make that decision. No one here can make it for you.

But when I look at my kids, I will put my decisionon hold.

I hear you. It's tough on the kids, no doubt. I hate my kids are going through this. However, your kids are seeing what their mom staying out all night and sleeping in another bed looks like. Is that what you want?

Tough call to make but I hope 1 day i will get my balls back and make the choice that I want.

Don't hope. Just do! Maybe getting your balls back will start making her think...

I held my tongue and did not confront her. You're right. She's made it known that she doesn't want gifts for wedding anniversary and birthdays.

Good decision. Why "confront" her and cause a fight? It won't help you or your sitch.

The only hurdle I'm facing is that she got me birthday presents this year and got the kids to pass it to me. Her birthday's next month. My plan is to reciprocate that and have the kids pick the presents and give it to her. Nothing too fancy. Please shoot down my idea if it's a bad one

Others cane weigh in here, but it she had the kids buy you a birthday gift it seems like returning the gesture is reasonable. Like they say in War Games, a "proportional response". Just keep it modest and make sure it's what the kids pick to give...don't buy a lavish gift trying to buy her back.

And yeah, 3 years has been a long time (for me I guess). Hope is see light at the end of the tunnel soon. I really want to live a kick-A$$ life with or without her.

I'm a year and a half, so can't imagine 3 years. It must be trying. Hang in there...you'll get through it!