Nicely done speaking with DIL. Yes, her boundaries are being pushed.
Originally Posted by 97Hope
Had a great time with the grandsons G8, G5. I picked them up from school yesterday and kept them with me today. I noticed G8 asking a LOT of questions about his gpa and I. When we got married, how we met, why we were now unmarried...etc. He said "Gpa said you don't like him anymore and that's why you won't come to his house". Hmmm. Wanted to tell him that I love his gpa, but don't agree with his choices, but didn't know if that was age appropriate.
Kids have questions. The best one can do is answer them honestly and age appropriately. For if not, their thirsty minds will find or make up the answers elsewhere.
“Gpa said you don't like him anymore and that's why you won't come to his house". This is true. You can love someone and not like them. It’s ok to tell G8 such a thing. No need to justify or explain the why part of it all.
It is pretty easy to see such a statement would bring follow up questions. At the tender age of eight, grandkid is wondering how it all affects him. Just hug him and tell him you love him. And Gpa loves him too, if he asks. It’s just Gpa sometimes has trouble showing it, if that comes up or is appropriate. Although for most folks who go off the deep end, emoting love and compassion becomes difficult. They lose quite a bit in their haste towards a new shinny life.
The role of grandparent is different than that of parent. And therefore one explains and answers differently.
Congratulations on the house. And the day shift. And the feeling of freedom. Love reading about your great life.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
