A lot of thinking, reading and processing. One thing where I seem a bit stuck:
H is friends again on social media with OW2, So R is showing cracks but he is definitely not yet giving up on her and I have proof now since he told me there is something between them.
R has been kept secret for about 8 months, so good thing is no exposure to kids. They know there is another OW but they are glad they are not confronted with it.
Is it now the time to start treating him as a roommate, currently I treat him as a friend. Do I need to kick him out? The only boundary which is clear to me is no sex or intimacy while with OW2.
I thought once I was aware of the new OW, my boundaries would become clear to me, just like when I found out about OW1, and I was also convinced this would have a huge affect on me again, just like with OW1 but it simply isn’t.
As I understand boundaries are for me, to protect myself. But I don’t feel I need to be protected for something. Why is this?
