Brave Little Gerda Knows More Now

[DnJ]

Hello Gerda

Wowee. What a busy weekend and couple of days. Today was only 13 hours unlike yesterday’s 16.

And tonight I am away from all that in my mountain cabin, watching how fast the moon crosses the sky and listening to all the insects singing into the stars.....

Yes. With the sun setting earlier the stars shine before bed now. Standing out under their gaze and listening to the insects sing, squeak, buzz, and chirp is kind of enthralling.

And when one notices how fast the moon or sun crosses the sky; that’s a nice sign of a peaceful time.


I do recall that time when you confronted H and his “friend” (broker) and prevented Cockroach from entering your house. Such a pair of sneaks those two were.

It is pretty wild that S16 and the broker’s son are friends. Small world huh?

I’d suggest not naming the broker Cockroach in your mind. That kind of thing tends to jade and taint one. And S16 and this kid are friends.

Good for you assuaging son’s fears regarding what his friend might know. And assuring him that you will be quashing drama and behaving adult-like in any future talks between parents.

This is just another wee test from the universe. Another opportunity to shine and grow. I’ve found blessing or curse usually depends on one’s point of view.

I did write my post before reading Own’s. I quite like her assessments. Don’t vilify friend’s Dad with names. And her financial / realty point of view is interesting and worthy of consideration.


S16 is growing into a fine man. I was impressed by his taking lead and going to see his Dad at the news of FIL’s death. In two short years son will be an adult, and I am predicting he is going to find his way just fine.

Son’s asking questions regarding the events from 2019 and his friend’s Dad’s involvement is fine. It sounds like you covered off the basics and facts without dragging this man through the mud too bad. S16 doesn’t need all the dirty little details.

It was quite hard to navigate and hard to assuage S16's fears, because the truth is that the drama will probably continue, H probably LOVES that he can sneak his way into S16's life and get control of his feelings in that way.

Yes, some drama probably will be attempted by H. Continue? I’m not sure. Does it take an audience for drama to survive? Like the noise of a tree falling when no one is around. Do not debate if there is noise or not, just don’t be there to hear it. And better yet, don’t get hit by a falling tree.

H’s sneaky ways does not get control of S16’s feelings. Nope. No way.

S16 controls his own feelings. He is a smart lad. He can and might even realize Dad’s attempts at influencing his feelings. Influence, not control. Perhaps that is something you and son can discuss. That would go a long way to assuage your fears as well as son’s.

I am sorry you are feeling lonely.

You are one of my favourite folks around here. Much more than an anonymous user ID. Deeper than the flat characters upon the screen. There is a feeling, caring, person, typing and sharing her life. Many many people read your words and are walking beside you.

(((Hugs)))

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