My past doesn't define who I am as a wife or mother. My past doesn't define who I am as a friend. It has influenced all of those things. And I've definitely made mistakes and some repeated mistakes because of it. My past, while it did give me some toxic behaviors that I had to work hard to get past, it also gave me deep compassion, it gave me empathy, it gave me true joy because I know how dark it can be, it gave me patience, it gave me perseverance, it gave me coping skills, it gave me introspection, it gave me strength. I'm not the only one..
Wayfarer, i respect the fact that you recognise this and have done the hard work.
Unfortunetly, a lot of people don't do the hard work, and don't see themselves as the problem - often blaming or holding resentment to the parents / person who made their childhood traumatising.
I didnt tar all women with that brush - but i would say a lot of people prefer to blame others or not ackowledge issues, as its easier than facing their own demons.
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.
