I’ve been reading some of your posts and just want to lend you my support. Not that long ago, I was where you are. My H (now XH) recently married OW and even had our kids in the wedding party, if you can believe it. Anyway… that was my WORST fear…that he would marry the person he cheated on me with. I imagined back then that I would be absolutely devastated by it. Fast forward three years and it barely even registered with me. Honestly…I actually could not have cared less.
Needless to say, I am not the same person I was - I see things very differently now. I know I wasn’t a perfect person in my marriage, no one is, but I did not deserve to be treated the way I was and neither do you. As Blu said, once you have recovered… and you WILL recover… you will have gained something from this. You will look back on it and realize how much you have grown as a person and, strangely enough, you may even be glad it happened. I know I am. I am happier. I have had many good things happen to me that likely would not have happened if I was still married. I also have more friends than I did before and I am STRONG… so much stronger than I ever realized I could be.
I know how hard this is El. I know that this is not the life you planned and it is unbelievably unfair your H has seemingly gotten away with such brutal behaviour. Notice I say seemingly? I say that because if there is one thing I am sure of, it is that there is such a thing as karma and that you get back what you give. I also believe that the ultimate revenge is a life well-lived so that is what I focus my time and energy on…building a great life for me and my kids. Hang in there El. It will get better. (((HUGS)))
