Therapy with my d has been going ok. The therapist says she sees parental alienation. One thing my daughter said was that I picked my girlfriend over her. Something I will never understand. Honestly I don’t understand that point of view. My daughter just speaks so negatively about me, I try and just validate but sometimes I have to call out the lies. I just really miss my daughter. Hopefully this will help.
Believe it or not, her speaking negatively means you still have a shot. It's when they give up that you're toast. In the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Habit #5 is "Seek first to understand, then to be understood." See if you can hold off on "calling out her lies" (being understood) until you fully understand her opinion that you picked your GF over her. If you just can't get it, repeat what she told you, and ask the therapist for help. "I hear her that insisting that she meet GF was picking GF over D. I'm racking my brain, but I'm not always good at seeing other points of view. Can you help me?"
