The weather is also sadly getting colder so less people about to chat to - apart from the local homeless people in the park. I chat to them as they sometimes need to talk to somebody too.
I have a friend who chats with the homeless and helps them weekly--e.g., offering books, cardboard, and blankets, helping them find odd jobs like gardening, and scaring off the occasional dangerous one. Looking at an uncertain financial future, you can perhaps relate to how normal people can get there. She does carry a knife on her and pulls it more than once a year, so exercise some caution as she does, but it's definitely a place where you can be useful, helpful, and do some meaningful good.
Originally Posted by smilie
I can't believe that you guys have had to go through this stuff and probably with kids too. It must have been an absolute nightmare! But you're here and survived, so I should also, eh? (I won't die...).
Well, I was never as shaky as you describe--every situation has commonalities but is also unique. Yes, breakups are almost always h-e-double-hockey-sticks. Kids make it harder and easier. It was an extra impetus to be a WAS from my XW. I love my kids, they love me, and I will always be their protector. I am never useless or helpless because they need me. Like Ready2Change, I didn't "survive" divorce. Free of my spouse, I woke up, and returned to living the life I did before marriage adventuring and traveling the country. That's been true as the LBS in a long-term relationship, too.
