I do get your gist, if there is anything I hate its lying, I would have so much more respect for him should he have just been honest from the beginning. He wanted this, own it. Not saying it would be any easier but at the very least my opportunity to decide what to do based on the actual facts would have been preferred. I allowed myself to be strung along because he kept telling me there was a chance. I just thought life/his stupidity got in the way and we could work it out.
OB I do have my in laws coming in each day for a few hours to help with the kids. I am in education so i need to be online during the day, I just stay up at night to do all the backend stuff.
I hope things improve too, I am in of the restricted LGAS (yay) but you know what, I don't think where I was would be making a huge difference right now. At least in my situation.
My boys are pretty well behaved so that makes it easier, they just have shocking palates which I am working on... anything that didnt move when it was alive seems to be abhorrent to them. But we will get there.
This parenting part I dont know, in the 8 months since BD he has been quite detached and I have had to be the main parent. I dont think it will get to 50/50 because I am not sure he wants to make the effort. His loss. my gain.
Thanks OB for the bday wishes, I made myself a strawberry cake (was very nice considering how easy it was) and watched a movie with the kids. I feel the future is bright.
