BL - all of what you are experiencing/feeling sounds 'normal' given the circumstances.
I think the less you see of them, the better. One positive to a D is not having to deal with the in-laws. If you can make it happen to where you don't do a swap, just use the school - go for it!
Also - go ahead and buy a second car seat. Simplify your life as much as possible.
your GAL activities sound amazing!!
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.