DnJ, that’s more clear to me now. I will follow your advice.
Originally Posted by Gerda
Ask yourself what you would do if you had no fear of doing it. If every six weeks you are having a small nervous breakdown at the thought of his return, don't allow it anymore.
I’m strong enough to handle the fact he comes over every 6 weeks. I don’t fear him anymore. That feeling is completely gone. I only have a day or 2 before his arrival a bit of a nervous feeling of how he is going to be but I don’t loose my sleep over it or anything. After he leaves I also miss him a bit (when all goes well) but this also takes only a day or 2.
The kids prefer it that way, and I honestly prefer this as well.
Meanwhile, the kids are still on holiday with H and they let me know that things are going a little better. He is still tense and regularly gives very short reactions, but otherwise it is not that bad.
The problem, however, is that he turns his anger back on to me in his messages the last 2 days. I don't think he can handle the pressure of taking care of 3 kids, and now he attacks me for anything and everything.
I keep my cool, answer politely and to the point and do not go along with his convictions.
WOW, he managed to last almost 3 months to be kind this time. What an improvement!
Wonder how long his frustrations will play out on me again.
Gerda, I saw your message and I'm 100% convinced that the divorce should be finalized as soon as possible. In my case, fortunately, everything is split financially (except for the house), but if he suddenly no longer wants to pay for the children of for the mutual costs of the house, I will also initiate the procedure. However don't see any purpose in doing this for now since it is not beneficial for me currently. (maybe only for my mental health though :D)
