Did you ever see the outward depression, dit he ever admit he was the one who was not well and needed help?
In short, did he ever work on himself?
sorry to interject, but it seems from what I've experienced and seen here that only a very tiny percentage of these people ever work on themselves because the majority of them think their partner is the problem.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver