CW wasn't saying don't trust your lawyer, he's saying it's unusual to inherently trust someone solely based on their profession. It's admirable, but not wise. You're lawyer seems to be doing the best she can for you. Your ex is a crappy person who happens to be a lawyer. You can find crappy people in every field on the planet. Including non-profit and philanthropic work. There is nothing inherently trustworthy about any adult on the planet. And a job doesn't make a person a better person, it's just a job. The person who inhabits that job is what determines whether they are trustworthy or not.
I worked in the legal field a loooonnngg time. Lawyers come in all shapes and size of ego, intelligence and honorability. I watched a lawyer get served an abuse restraining order for his stbxw in the hall between cases. He was representing a kid who was detained by the state because of abuse from his parents. I watched another lawyer call his intern to schedule pickups during a trial week while representing a mother trying to get her kids back after her abusive ex finally got locked up. He had to get picked up because he had just gotten his 3rd DUI. People are deeply flawed and massively complicated. People are rarely who they seem to be on the surface, and if you're ever lucky enough to find people who are exactly who they say they are hold on to them.
Divorce like almost all civil proceedings are a he said she said. Her statement of truth is her version of the truth. Nothing more. Nothing less. It doesn't make it reality, but as it stands that's her perception. Simple forensic accounting, h3ll just looking at bank transactions, the truth about the money will come out. And we call that impeachable evidence. That makes her look like everything else she's said is a lie. She's an unreliable witness. This is not tragic. It actually bodes really well for you and your case. I'd honestly hope she had bigger lies.
If putting this D on pause is suitable to you financially, and in your best interest I'd say go for it. If it's not, if it's better for you to keep trucking along you should. I'm with CW discuss what both scenarios will mean for you with your lawyer. Staying informed and making decisions with as much information as possible and not making them on emotion is always in your best interest.
