If I would do anything differently - I would have watched closer for signs of similarities to my ex.
I find myself much more willing to accept relationships for what they are, instead of trying to make them fit into some mold.
I loved my ex very much and was terribly surprised and disappointed that he turned out to be such a dead loss. I still love the qualities that drew me to him though - humour and intelligence being foremost. That will probably never change.
Hopefully what will change is that I get better at working out when it's time to give up. I don't ever want to be hurt this badly again, so taking a big risk to make something work is anathema to me now. I haven't got time.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
It's also challenging finding women seeking something lifelong, who aren't in need of rescue and aren't seeking more little ones. I think it's like kml says. Not many people beyond a certain age who have their life figured out are willing to commit to health OR SICKNESS again. Anyway, I mean to say it's a common problem for men and women--you're not alone. (:
You might be looking at the wrong age bracket - women my age are definitely not seeking more little ones and not too many of my friends (or me for that matter) is in need of rescue
You have reminded me though, that I have decided that, given the opportunity, a venture into the uncharted waters of dating younger men is probably a good idea!
Originally Posted by bttrfly
Our timeline is almost identical ... and our stories are very, very similar.
That's the only thing that gives me hope that there may still be time for a relationship for me down the road.
I've always felt you and I (and KML) have had very similar experiences with our exes.
I'm very hopeful that you'll find somebody down the road a bit. Somebody wonderful!
