When this all plays out, and you are once again left devestated by your H, you will look back and see that everyone here was merely trying to protect you from yourself. To help you move forward. To help hold you accountable in an effort to help you find the TRUE happiness that you deserve.
You are confusing unconditional love with an addiction to your H. No, you aren’t his W, he lives with and has sex with another woman, and he has for a long time now. You are the Ow that he is cheating on his partner with. You can deny that until you are blue in the face, but it’s a fact.
Truly, I think you are a good person, and you deserve a man that will cherish you. But you do self sabotage and then stubbornly defend your decisions. Maybe, just maybe, some of us here are right when we say it would be worthwhile and smart of you to invest in some therapy. When we suggest that, it comes from a place of love, not judgement.
If you do decide to leave the board, I wish you well.