Job.... Cadet... is it possible to have my threads deleted???
I'm tired and worn out by being bullied and being others "entertainment purposes"
People only read what they want... not that my H has been working on his broken parts. Sadly I see here many that need to work on their broken parts.
I'm chastised about how wrong I am to drive an hour to have sex with my H but no where in Michelle's book does it state you should NOT have sex with your H. No one read that the event was a nod to our early marriage.... this is not our first or second or third rendezvous in a car... there is nothing wrong with recreating the happier parts of your M... it makes dealing with the more serious issues that we faced seem more fixable.
I'm not denying my Hs anger issues.... but if your spouse was alcoholic or a coke addict and they work through recovery can not a person work through their anger issues?
That being said Joseph please look up the meaning of unconditional love. Unconditional love is having love for someone and expecting nothing in return. Unconditional love is NOT a feeling it's a choice. I have unconditional love for my H. I don't need anything from him. I can never see him again and still love amd want the best for him everyday even if it's not me. The sun will still rise up in the east tomorrow. My current life plan does not resolve at all around my H.
As for AS. IC and that setting will never work for me. Boundaries were broken... legal ones. It will never be a safe place for me. But I have joined a group and its helped tremendously. Its been well over a year now with them. I don't discuss it here becasue well... I don't want that part of my life trashed too. According to my group I'm thriving. I'm fantastic. I've done a lot of hard work and I've been there immensely for others. It's just weird that their opinion of me and my journey is so radically different from how I'm trashed talked here.
Job... Cadet... I think there needs to be more addressing of how this should be a safe place and that some members are taking out whatever short comings in their own life out onto others. I have never been anything other than truthful and raw about my journey and healing. Some of you need to take a harder look at your own brokenness. Thank goodness I'm at a stronger place than a year ago... some of your comments could have pushed a weaker person into some serious life ending decisions.
A vast many of you need to learn and practice more empathy. Its completely okay to say given my circumstances you would have not chose to drive to meet your estranged spouse... every one has their own opinion and choices... but to simply mock me as entertainment because I did do that is completely wrong.
