Tired

[BL42]

If she is out of the house, I am absolutely fine; if she is gone for a week, two weeks, a month, it does not affect me in any way. I can take care of myself and S6 completely. I don't want to be the one moving out of our home obviously, but she can do what she has been doing for the last two years, flip flopping, indefinitely. I am perfectly content with my life, house, neighborhood and city right now; she is the one who is not happy with me, our home, the city where we live, etc. Eventually, she plans to move out of the city and either be with OM or another one that can meet her needs, so I see it as a big mistake losing on our home that I have spent so many years making it comfortable.

Again, if she's leaving for weeks or months at a time and not caring for S6 you should be documenting it along with everything you do for him. From what you describe you're effectively serving as his primarily caretaker now. Work with a L on how this plays in a D. She won't be able to move outside a reasonable distance unless you let her. And if she does move away it'll likely play against her getting joint custody. Right now she's fantasizing about her affair and future life with OM, but that will likely not end as she imagines. You need to position yourself correctly now so that if/when the affair blows up in her face you're already seen as the primary caretaker and she doesn't do a 180 and start fighting you over custody.