Tired

[BL42]

dmrafa,

Just read through your sitch. So she left the country without S6? For how long??? It's good she didn't take S6...considering she's from a different country and has family there who knows what would've happened. It's possible she wouldn't have brought S6 back. As CWarrior recommends above, I would look into an order barring her from taking the kids out of the country without your consent (especially because you're both from different countries).

Imo, you need to assume a D is going to happen. Start making actions which would strengthen your position financially but, more importantly, in terms of custody. Make sure to lean on your L here. What impact does her leaving S6 for a long period of time factor into the D and custody? Can you demonstrate you cared for S6 100% and even assisted his remote learning while she left and would that play well to a judge in a D?

I disagree with SteveLW when he says "go through with it". Do NOT move out of your current residence. If you need a separate address explore options CWarrior mentioned like PO Box. If you still feel strongly you need to make sure to consult a L it won't impact custody. However, consider it from S6's perspective...has he known the same residence his whole life? And in the future is he going to think back about what happened as "mommy moved out and left" or "daddy moved out and left". I would stay strong in the residence he's accustomed to and make her move out if she's having an affair and breaking up the family. You be S6's rock and let her be the one who has to take the action.