Well I for one feel completely thrown under the bus...
Yes, my STBXH has some serious anger issues... many months before dday it was broached that he has PTSD like many combat veterans. His best friend tried having a talk with me but his timing was completely off...
My H has been doing the work... addressing the issues. There was humility when he contacted. He is still wrestling with guilt and shame.
To say I'm disrespectful and rubbing every LBS faces in it.... is completely mean and almost hateful.
I'm a human being. I went through a terrible loss. It's been an interesting journey but I no longer feel lost or broken. I own my choices. I did not come here because I was ashamed of my actions. This is a divorce busting forum and I was sharing my journey. Choose to believe me or not but I am not outcome dependent. The D is actually the best thing financially for me.
I can't be the OW while I'm still legally married... sorry, until the D she is and will remain the OW. AND, I owe her nothing. She's a fly on rotting meat.
I chose to have sex with my H.... in a car... at the side of the road because it was HOT. Sex is what we always got right. It's no different than swiping right on Tinder... well I take that back it is... because after 10yr you know what works and theres no discussing it.
If I never see my H again or if in 2 weeks I've got health insurance and I'm signing the D I have no regrets over the sex.
CW don't accept their disrespect.
I have come here meaning harm to no one. I don't feel that I've ever gone out of my way to say a mean thing to anyone, yet I have been bullied. There is so much negativity on this board in general. It's become clear why it seems to be dying off.
I've always appreciated the veterans here but there needs to be serious change if you feel that attacking members is the way to promote yourselves.
