If you form a new partnership, what are the limits of that?
At this age (40s/50s), I think we have to be flexible. My D is 16. I'm not going to introduce a step-parent or move. My S is 12. I could go either way. The women I'm seeing Sat/Sun both own homes free and clear--I'd probably prenup those as theirs.
Originally Posted by Andrew
But certainly a waving red flag.
I don't see all those situations as red flags--reasons to immediately discard them?
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A neighbour just can't see the reason to bother getting a slip of paper and has been on her own for at least 15 years.
No flag.
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he told me that it was because both names were on the mortgage and that her ex wouldn't qualify for a new one - he was phenomenally bad with money
Yellow flag. She's still attached enough to her ex to make decisions based on him. I'd give her a chance if she were working through her co-dependence.
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One of my cousins is separated from her abusive husband and is terrified of provoking him by asking for a divorce. She's been with her current partner for 6 or 7 years.
Yellow flag. She's still attached enough to her ex to make decisions based on him. I'd give her a chance if she were working through her fears.
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had vague answers about why she wasn't divorced.
Red flag. Seriously? She married and doesn't know why?!
