Time for an update. Since my last post both of my sons are a year older and I'm happy to report that I am no longer a parent to any teenagers. S22 graduated with a MET degree from a Big Ten University in May. He only got two tickets to the graduation ceremony and he chose to have me and S20 attend. I am sure STBXW was disappointed but his choice and I stayed out of it. He landed a job as a field service engineer and will be relocating from the Midwest to Colorado when training is complete.
S20 is taking some summer school classes and working part time. He seems quite depressed and is most likely tired of me asking him if he's ok. I have recommended getting him some IC but he doesn't want to so I am still trying to determine how to navigate this. He just can't accept that his mom has changed into a person he no longer recognizes. They have seen each other once in the last 5 months. He can go visit her anytime he wants but refuses too. I assume that seeing her in her current state is just too painful for him.
I'm doing well. I have been killing it with my workouts and cardio and my weight is holding steady. Currently at a BMI of 21. I go out with friends 2-3 times a week and have two long weekend trips planned in the next couple of months.
My fathers health is on the decline and he is no longer able to properly care for his cattle. I have been spending every other weekend or so down on the farm keeping the place mowed, repairing fences, etc. Hope to negotiate a deal with a cattle broker soon to get them sold and put my mother's mind at ease.
Still working on detachment from STBXW. She has not spoken to me since Christmas and I have only received 4 business texts in this timeframe. I have not initiated any contact with her. Her legal team has had my financial declaration for 6 months and I have not heard a peep from them. I know that this means nothing.
I still read daily and appreciate all the sage guidance from the veteran members. I hope one day to be in a place to pay it forward.
Still standing,
Taz
M59 (53@BD) XW56 (50@BD) S26 (20@BD) S24 (19@BD) Married 25 (22@BD) Together 28 BD 9/29/19 (moved out unannounced while I was on fishing trip) W filed 10/19/20 (Informed me via text) D final 11/10/22
