Within the void of indifference, temptations and other feelings loom larger than they really are. D
As always, I immediately share my feelings with you, this to also make everyone on the forum aware that it is normal for your feelings to change constantly. After a few days, these feelings are different again, as the has been spot-on again this time.
Originally Posted by DnJ
My advice: No dating or anything else until you have been divorced for at least one year. That is actually divorced. Papers signed. And one full year post that. Things are different, once the ink is dried. D
Originally Posted by kml
So long as you think you would take your H back if he came crawling back to you, I wouldn't recommend dating. (A year after a divorce is an arbitrary time limit which may or may not apply to you. After my ex's affair, reconciliation, and then MLC several years later which I tried to DB, once he filed I was DONE and happily moved on. But I was dead sure at that time that I wouldn't want him back under ANY circumstances.)
I think it's fantastic that 2 people with completely different personalities and opinions give me the same advice. Then you know that that's where the experience is and that you should follow this advice.
I still love my H very much, and yes, if he would wake-up, I would indeed keep the option open to reconcile.
I'm not going to lie. I was flattered by the attention this man gave me, but I also realize well enough that such things are short-lived and that it will cause me more headaches than it will be good for me.
I feel good today, by myself, living the best single life possible, don't let me ruin that by making it more complicated again.
Originally Posted by kml
All that being said, there's no reason you can't go to lunch with this guy and discuss your mutual heartaches. He could be a friend and you might both be able to support each other through this phase in your lives. Just tread carefully. And keep it quiet.
We’ll see if the above is possible. I have other male friends whereby our relationship is purely based on friendship, so why wouldn’t it be.
