So no this is not the same GF. That GF decided to break up with me on Easter Sunday morning. LOL I mean who does that? 😂. Could feel that one coming, but she went back to her ex. The one she called “old fat guy” who would sit and text with his ex-GF’s while they watched TV. Bullet dodged!
The space is for my GF who I’ve been seeing for the last year. She has been fantastic since we met up to and including a week long vacation we took together. BUT I had noticed a change in her texts for about 2 weeks. It was subtle but she stopped with the lovey dovey names to me, stopped saying I’ll be home and just in general less excited. EVERY thing else stayed the same. She cooked, laundry, talking in person, sex was amazing, no bitchiness/fighting. I told my buddies and counselor my spidey sense felt something but they all say no she loves you. Well Sunday she came up for the talk. I told her I was expecting it.
I think she’s scared. She has a history of male figures in her life leaving or dying. She also has a very hectic job and some other things she’s never fully addressed. Could there be an OM, sure but none of the other clues are there. No guarding the phone either. Anyway she asked for some space and so I’m giving it to her. Don’t know how it will go, but I’m settled on how I approach whatever she decides. If she wants to leave, best of luck and I’ll move along to someone new and if she wants to stay together I have a list of a few things that would have to happen for me to agree to it. As I say she’s been fantastic to me and even in this has been as well so I’m dealing with walk away and not WW. If there is another guy then I’d default be done. Anyway re-reading my history, man I’m blown away by the quality of the advice I got. Was hard I guess before D and being in the tunnel to really grasp it but coming back now, it really hits me the quality of help I got here.
As for ExW, amazingly we are good. Haven’t seen her in years and only earlier this year did we talk on the phone for the first time. We continue via text and email for issues regarding D and to date it’s been working well. She has a new long term guy and I’ve had my GF so all in all everything is fine on that front.
