My XH used to talk a lot about the secure vs. insecure attachment thing and always said I was a secure attacher while he was insecure. I knew all that before he came along about myself, but I could see the differences when I was side by side with him. And, I can definitely see how it ties back in to how we were raised. Interestingly, Sparky and I JUST had a similar discussion yesterday because he has a habit of doing something that I KNOW is a product of something his mother did when he was a child and still does occasionally. While Sparky, by most accounts should be an insecure attacher, he is actually a secure attacher.
It is an interesting subject for sure.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
