@Thornton, I just re-read about your 3rd breakup--crazy, so sudden! I get our different situations (ongoing issues vs. a sudden disappearance) could lead to us having different goalposts for reconciliation. When I left my XW, and when my XGF left me, the change was swift, but the issues were well-known. In your case, you had months of good karma built-up and future plans--then POOF over a couple of arguments.
