Interesting concept. I don't feel that this is what I'm doing. I don't need to convince myself that I can still love her and I'm not sure what gain I would get from doing that. I also agree that based on my wife she seems to be an extremely selfish person. It really is like she is under some form of wicked spell.
Try to read this response completely objectively. As if someone else wrote it. Would you say the poster was focusing on themselves? Or on their WAS?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018