I’m sorry you’re going through this and doing everything you can to find a reason and understand. But the bottom line is even if she tells you it doesn’t mean she isn’t lying. You’ll never know what really happened. It could be she never cared to she got burned out on the marriage and the feeling of having everything on her shoulders. To anything in between. At the end of the day she left, at the end of the day for now it’s over. And the whys do not matter.
What matters is how are you going to heal from this? How are you going to handle the new obstacles that you will face. Are you going to sit around and spend the next year trying to figure this out until you give up and then start trying to heal and move on? Or are you going to start now?
As hard as it is for you to accept (and trust me I understand and we’ve all been there) for now it’s over. Focus on you. Focus on what part you may have played in it so you can be a better person for the next relationship if you choose to have one. Focus on making sure you are ok and will be ok. Focus on what you can do to have some fun. Do you have any family or friends you could reconnect with? What hobbies were you interested in before you were married? Could you read, do puzzles, color, paint, build model cars? Maybe you could learn a new skill.
Please try to remember, it doesn’t matter why she’s turned into this. It doesn’t matter if she’s always been this way. It doesn’t matter if she’s a narcissist or the kindest person in the world. Because it doesn’t change your situation. Only you can change your situation and you are and can be responsible for your happiness.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
