I just couldn’t reconcile why my ex left me. I needed a reason so I started reading up on personality disorders, and like you, I noticed some similarities in my ex.
I would feel better for a while because now I could point the finger. And it felt better for me to be the victim for some reason.
It’s been almost 2 years of no contact for me since we split up. And looking back, I think doing all that work trying to diagnose her did nothing for me. It took the focus off of my own healing.
So even if your ex is a narcissist, it doesn’t change the past. And since we can’t change the past (and I’m assuming you would not want to get back with a narcissist), that only leaves you in the present.
What can you do today to make tomorrow better? Stay focused on you.
