He did go to his moms, she called me and told me, we are on good twems most the time thanks to her watching my son. Even though she is toxic in alot of other ways. Anyways I had to drive over there to give her babysitting money and my H was there, and he had just told her we had an argument and he had a really bad day at work and we just needed a night apart. I was very surprised he told her this and didn't tell her specifics with our situation. He was calmer and we talked for a minute about thw argument and left things better. I didnt engage him first or for more then about 2 minutes before I told him goodbye and left to stay at a friends.
I definitely say its for him to justify the D. And to try to take blame for his actions and put them on me. It feels like he is constantly trying find something to blame on me for the D.
And thank you, I'm surprised at how calm I still feel thats for sure. I'm very thankful gor everyone here helping me get to this point.
Also that last sentence about it not not having so much to do with me etc... I needed to hear that, I just read it and felt more relaxed and had my inner turmoil calm down. It truly helped me.
