Well I came home, probably an hour after my H thought I'd be home, he seemed fine. But after a minute asked where our son was, I told him he was with my mom because I'm working a long shift tomorrow and he immediately got upset and started to raise his voice saying great now hes going to have bad habits again. (My mom doesn't do all the rules we like her to with our son, he gets away with more over there so my H always has issues with it, but obviously I'm not going to keep him from his family) anyways he gets bad habits from my H's mither as well. Such as never being off her tablet when hes there. I tried to point this out and my H just said well I only notice issues after your family.... Obviously I was pissed but I just said "Listen I don't want to be pulled into a fight, in going to walk away and if you want to we can discuss this civilly or drop it for tonight" My H got really mad then and said between "I wasnt being irrate I was trying to talk to you, or you just try to say all these logical things but it diesnt make it the truth (not sure what that means) and I attenpted again my saying "I would like to not argue may we please stop this" he said okay and then underhis breath said "this is why we are getting a D" at this point I told him "that was inappropriate. Anyways to leave it all to its end, he got up and starting packing his work clothes for the next day without saying a word. I didnt know as I didnt follow him but had to go upstairs to put some stuff up and saw so I asked him "are you staying somehwere else tonight" and he said yes hes going to his mom's. And he got in his car and left.
I dont sleep well other places but I'm considering going to a friends tonight as staying In our rather big empty house with the negative energy in it feels suffocating a bit at the moment.
Anyways I wasnt prepared for that very confusing blow up, I think I handled at least some of it well but if theres anything else I could have handled differently or better, I am all ears
Also I am surprisingly calm right now, I dont believe if I had found DR or this website and all of you I would be. I'd be in tears and anxiety ridden and I feel strangely okay, not that it doesnt hurt still it does but I'm not torn apart by it.
