Thank you both so much. I know he is 100% trying to say this is why he wants a divorce just because of the guilt he feels. He is definitely trying to make me the bad guy so he doesn't feel so shitty for what hes doing. Thank you for confirming that, its good to have other who agree and validate my thoughts in it.
Thanks for the advice, I'm going to live by that now, I'm not going to mention it ever again and if he brings it up I will walk away (I'll gave to go back and reread some of the quotes people have posted on here of what to say before walking away from an argument)
And thank you LH19 I went ahead and deleted his email stuff from my phone. Mainly because for one yes I know hes cheating and all its doing to me is hurting me and making ne want to confront him which isnt helping me to move on and foxus on me. It's too tempting to focus on him with it so I did it. However I still have wvidence of him cheating and I am keeping it locked away, I dont want to ever use it or do it. But my H has alot of power still and I am keeping it just in case I need to use it. (He is military and all) anyways thank you both.
When this situation happened my H said "This is why I want a D, this will never stop, I dont even want to talk to you" that was about 3 hours ago. He has since texted me about a job offer he got and sent me a tiktok video of owls (which are my favorite animal) I have not replied to either if them
